A student came to say ‘goodbye’ as he leaves for his new job in Bangalore.
A week back, he had asked to speak to me in confidence. All of his roommates and peers had secured positions in Bangalore and he was being told to aim lower – in the local city. His confidence was at an all time low, saying things like “God does not like me, my destiny is full of bad things”. I sat down with him one evening and asked him to lay out what was on his mind. After discovering his negative self talk, I was not sure what to do – I recalled personally experimenting with ‘affirmations’ and thought this may work. I instructed him to write out all of the negative statements he was feeling. Then we wrote the opposite in the present tense on the next page. We typed them up, stuck a photo of him smiling on the page and titled it “Daily Prarthna”. I encouraged him to say this out loud, three times in the morning, afternoon and evening.
The next day, he had an interview with a small firm where he managed to secure a position. Still insistent on Bangalore, I encouraged him to speak to the Placement Director to arrange interviews in Bangalore. Yesterday he came back – holding an offer for a BPO in Bangalore where, along with many of his peers, he will be earning a very good salary.
As I go to extend my hand to congratulate him as he leaves… he reaches for my feet… “Woah, please no!,” I exclaim. “I want your blessings!” he answers. “Give me a hug, you always have my blessings,” I say (Who on earth am I to give blessings?!).
Just as I was wondering what I’m doing here.
– Pramal Lad, 2009 Indicorps Fellow